Effortless Chic

You know those girls that show up with the perfect “bedhead” hair and the “Oh, I just threw this on” outfit? The ones that claim to have overslept and gotten ready in 5 minutes to make it to where ever they need to be on time? Yeah, I have never been one of those girls. I am usually late because I went through the back half of my closet and finally found one blouse-y shirt that didn’t make me look bloated and wouldn’t cause issues when I inhaled half a pizza on my own. It’s gotten even harder to look decent with two littles in tow. My typical outfit is some kind of workout short, a tank top or oversized t-shirt, and the most pathetic excuse for a top knot you have ever seen. (I would instagram said top knot, but I feel like that defeats the whole purpose of instagram. #iwokeuplikethis)

My goal before Thanksgiving rolls around is to have a better “Mom” style, and I was recently in Old Navy and just feel like they have nailed it for the fall season. Although I feel like every season has been getting better and better with them – much fewer cargo shorts and more chambrays and pixie pants, loving it. So, I put together a couple outfits that I feel are very effortless chic for a mom on the go, or on the couch, in the playroom, where ever that Mom wants to be. These outfits work for non-Moms too. Something to take a little bit out of the guess work each morning and leave more time for me to down my iced coffee before SJ starts piling books in my lap and grunting at me to read them.


I love a flowy blouse. They are so forgiving and yet still look very polished. I also love that you can tuck them into pants or a pencil skirt for a completely different look. This one in particular has a great shape and a fab neckline so that you can add a necklace or a scarf to it if you want. I want to get this in the Go Pinot Go color because I think 1. It is close to pink, which I am obviously in love with and 2. it’s such a great color for fall and it has a neutral feel to it without being boring.

Distressed jeans have been hot for a while. I like them when they are either straight leg or skinny because I think it keeps them from being too messy looking. I prefer this straight leg pair because ever since having two babies, my legs still need some work to look good in skinny jeans. (front thigh cellulite, people. Not a good look in a jean labelled ‘super skinny’) Plus, when you have a blouse-y top, it’s good to stay straight or skinny on the bottom to keep the whole look polished, and to keep you from looking larger than you want. Camouflaging extra pounds is good, creating them is not! Well, unless you are creating them by downing s’mores pop tarts. It’s shameful, but oh so delicious.

I love this outfit because I feel that you could throw on a flat shoe or a heeled bootie and it would work. This goes from story time to cocktail time with a couple accessory switches….and maybe try and take out the top knot and create some beach waves!


OK, I don’t know who decided to make sweat suits so chic and publicly acceptable, but I am loving it. As a former college athlete, I love a good pair of sweats, however mine that are emblazoned with the Pfeiffer emblem would NEVER look this fabulous. A leopard print sweatshirt, this is me in so many ways – my closet is begging for this. Comfy, yet such a pretty statement. You couldn’t wear this to the office or out for drinks, but Saturday morning errands and brunch – perfection.

I love these sweat pants! The zipper detail adds a little something so that it doesn’t say “I wore these for four years at college and there may be microwaved mac and cheese stains leftover”. Also, give me a good wedge sneaker (I love the leather detail on these) and you have just rocked out your effortless style but are still comfortable enough to chase your son around the playground ONE MORE TIME. I seriously need to go out and get this top and pants now.


I love a good dress. I have more dresses in my closet than anything else. I think it allows you to dress it up, down – go to work, wedding, drinks – seriously, you can change up ANY dress in any way you want. This shirt dress is amazing. I tried it on in store and love the cinched waist and the longer length. With nude pumps and a cardigan, you are ready for the office. I love the idea of throwing on some sneakers for Mommy and Me time at the library. And a chic pair of flats is always right with a shirt dress. The pink is obviously the color I am going for, but I may need to add the teal too just for a nice pop for the warm Florida fall weather.

So what do you think? Would you envy my mom style if I added these fun options into my rotation of workout clothes and rolled out of bed pajamas? What are your go-to effortless pieces?




Lilly Celebrates One Month!

It is hard to believe that I have a one month old daughter and an almost 14 month old son. I couldn’t have imagined this even a year ago, but it really is fabulous. Tiring – so, SO tiring, but so amazing. It’s also hard to believe that I have a one month old daughter because we haven’t even reached her ACTUAL due date. This little resilient girl was supposed to be born September 26th – exactly 14 months from her brother’s birthday, but she joined us on August 18th in quite the dramatic way…. I will save that story for another day though. For now, check out how our sweet Lilly is doing in her first month of life.

DSC_0270Height and Weight: Due to her being a 34 week preemie – the doctor had us do a 3 week check-up to make sure she was growing and she clocked in at 7 lbs, 2 oz which was huge since she was born 5 lbs, 13 oz and dropped down to 5 lbs, 4 oz in her first week. Grow baby grow! Her last length measurement was 19.5 inches.


Health:  Her first week was spent in the NICU just to make sure that her respiratory system was fully developed and that she could eat and breathe with no issues. They originally expected her to have to stay in the NICU between 3 and 6 weeks, and she was only there for 6 days. SIX DAYS!! She is such a little miracle and amazes me every day. Ever since she has been home, she has been great. Right now the only issue is her abdomen muscles haven’t fully grown together, so she has an outie belly button, but the doctor says this should grow together and be fine by 4 months.


Sleep: Lilly slept a LOT during her first two weeks. I am told this is normal for preemies, but the last week and a half, she has been awake a lot more during the day. She has also started staying up between 3 and 5 AM, which makes for one tired mommy when SJ likes to get up between 6:30 and 7 AM. We are working on getting her on a better bedtime schedule to help her sleep during this time, but for right now, she wakes up every 3-4 hours at night to eat.

DSC_0236 Diet: Lilly is bottle fed expressed breast milk although we are practicing nursing! Since she was so premature, it was difficult getting her to latch and even harder with her being strong enough to suck, so I stayed with the bottles since I was so nervous about her eating enough and gaining enough weight. Since the weight gain is going so well, I am working harder with nursing and she seems to do better every time. I am also really lucky to have a supportive husband, because it is way more frustrating than I ever dealt with nursing SJ.

Clothes: When Lilly came home, her 0-3 month onesies engulfed her, so I went out and bought newborn sized clothes. The past week though, she has grown into her 0-3 month outfits and this mommy is SO happy since I went a little crazy buying adorable girl clothes.

Baby gear love: Lilly sleeps in the bassinet on top of our pack and play next to the bed, just like SJ did. We also LOVE the mamaroo (obsessed, as we were with SJ).

Crying: She just started crying over the past week and a half. I was used to her fretting a bit around the time she was supposed to eat, or if she was gassy, but now we have the little newborn cries and every time it breaks my heart!


Likes: Eating, sleeping, and being held are currently her favorite things. She loves when her parents or grandparents snuggle her after she finishes a bottle. 

Dislikes: Wet diapers and going longer than 3 hours between feedings.


Postpartum: Things were really tough the first week while she was in the NICU. We still have so much to unpack in the house, and we downsized significantly, so I feel like everything is unorganized and I broke down several times over it. Now that she is home and we are getting used to life with two sweet babies, it’s getting better. Like I said before, I am tired almost every day and definitely in survival mode, so sometimes SJ and I watch more TV than we do read books and sing songs, but we are getting there!


Social: Not much with being social, but she does get plenty of “play time” with her brother!

Milestones: She is growing SO well and is very active for a one month old. We work on tummy time a little each day, and she can hold her head up when someone is holding her on their chest. Also, she is just gorgeous, DUH!

If you are wondering how SJ is handling being a big brother, he is doing great. He loves her so much and always wants to touch her and kiss her. However, he also wants to hit her and head butt her, so we are working on decreasing the frequency of those events and increasing the times when he rubs and kisses her head. I don’t think he still fully understands that she is his little sister, but when someone is feeding her or playing with her, he wants to be right next to her. He also seems very concerned whenever we go to the doctor as to what they are doing to her. The below picture may make your heart explode, so consider yourself warned.


We are so in love with our sweet, adorable, blue-eyed babies!!


The Liebster Award!

Most of the time, blogging creates friendships between other bloggers, however in my case, my friendship with Zoe of The Latina Lens started pre-blog, but gives me someone who pushes me to blog, as well as gives me inspiration from her cute crafts to fun family outings. Seriously, check her out. Plus, she has been published at XoJane.com, so she is pretty much a big deal. You’re welcome.

And since I had my blogging hiatus, she pushed me back into the blogging world by giving my The Liebster Award! (Thanks Zoe!)

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According to Zoe, a Liebster award is given out to bloggers with less than 200 followers to let them know what a fabulous job they’re doing. I used to do a fabulous job, so hopefully I can get myself back there. I have some big plans in the works, so let’s make sure I follow through!

So here are the rules:

1. You must link back to the person who nominated you.
2. You have to answer all the questions you were given by the person who nominated you.
3. You must choose 5-11 bloggers who have less than 200 followers, and come up with a new set of 11 questions for them.
4. Let your nominees know they’ve been nominated.

Now, I am not going to nominate anyone just yet, because I want to get back in the groove and meet some new bloggers that have popped up! But, once I find them, I will nominate them so you can check out even more fun people in the Blogosphere. I am going to answer the questions that were given to me for the Liebster Award though!

Why did you start blogging?

This one is easy. I started blogging to document everything my family is doing, and also to have a place to share my creative ideas and get input from other people on them (since I can be REALLY indecisive). What I didn’t expect was to meet so many great bloggers and spend an hour each morning reading their amazing blogs!

Favorite movie of all time?

This is tough – I have 3. Anchorman, Wedding Crashers, and Uptown Girls. (miss you Brittany Murphy)

Mac or PC?

Mac, duh. My husband is in Graphic and Web Design – we don’t do PCs.

Twitter or Instagram?

Instagram. I LOVE pictures – posting them and seeing everyone else’s.

What is your biggest pet peeve?

Ugh, I have a lot just because I can be so bitchy sometimes, but the biggest one would be to not acknowledge when I am speaking to you. A simple “That sounds great” will suffice.

Do you have a green thumb?

NO! Which is so depressing since my parents can grow ANYTHING and I have spent hundreds of dollars on plants to have a beautiful garden. I am hoping the beautiful Florida weather will help turn my luck around.

Most exciting moment of 2014?

Celebrating SJ’s birthday and the birth of Lilly. My heart is so full with where my family is now – even if my brain is so tired.

What is your favorite adult beverage?

I haven’t drank in SO long…I miss all adult beverages, but I think my go-to has to be a margarita or a jack and coke. It all depends on the situation, which I hope will involve dancing in the near future.

WordPress or Blogger?

WordPress. I have heard pros and cons for both, but WordPress is easier for me.

What is your least favorite store in the mall?

Hot Topic. Always has been, always will be. It literally terrifies me.

iPhone or Android?

Wait, there are other phones out there besides iPhones?! 🙂

Alright friends, I hope you enjoyed reading my answers. Today is actually Lilly’s one month birthday! I am hoping to get some photos of her and let everyone know how she’s doing. (spoiler alert: SHE IS AWESOME! :))




Flying South

I have no excuses for why I haven’t been blogging. I could tell you that being pregnant with a baby was exhausting (which it was), or moving from my home of 7 years away from all of our amazing friends and life was took up a lot of time, or even that moving into 3 different homes in the span of 2 months was stressful – but it still doesn’t excuse the fact that I haven’t blogged since January.

The fact of the matter is a LOT of things have changed for the Phaler family in a short period of time, but things are getting better every day and I don’t think i have ever been happier. Now that I am getting more into the groove of managing two sweet, adorable babies – one of which is actually a toddler that is ALL boy ALL the time – and keeping the household under control, I want to get back into the groove of blogging. With a blank slate of a rental home (until we sell our home in Charlotte and save up to buy something permanent) and a lot of kid activities going on around our new home, I feel rejuvenated with new, exciting things to blog about!

So, I apologize again to all of you that have been reading, but I promise to be more consistent with blogging and that things will be more exciting! Plus, we bought a camera for documenting our life, so I can start using those rather than instagram photos or blurry iPhone pics. Although, the iPhone pics may get better once I get the new iPhone 6….because even with 2 kids, I still tend to be a spoiled brat….

Tomorrow, updating everyone with the Liebster Award given to me by Zoe over at The Latina Lens! Seriously check her out when you get a chance. She shows the good, the bad, and the fashionable when it comes to being a mommy to two gorgeous and sassy girls!

See you tomorrow!!